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From helpful books and other websites to our own quarterly newsletter, we offer resources (in English and Spanish) that aid parents, families and friends in understanding their loss.

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Books for fathers

A Guide for Fathers: When a Baby Dies & A Father’s Story
by Tim Nelson, A Place To Remember Publishing, revised 2007

Noah’s Rainbow: A Father’s Emotional Journey from the Death of His Son to the Birth of His Daughter by David Fleming, Baywood Publishing, 2006

Swallowed By a Snake: The Gift of the Masculine Side of Healing
by Thomas R. Golden, LCSW, Golden Healing Publishing, 2010

When Men Grieve: Why Men Grieve Differently and How You Can Help
by Elizabeth Levang, Ph.D., Fairview Press, 1998

Books for Grandparents

A Grandparent’s Sorrow 

by Pat Schwiebert, RN, Grief Watch Publishing, 2003

For Bereaved Grandparents
by Margaret H. Gerner, Centering Corporation Publishing, 2004

Books related to miscarriage

Miscarriage After Infertility: A Woman’s Guide to Coping
by Margaret Comerford Freda, RN & Carrie F. Semelsberger, RN, Fairview Press, 2003

Miscarriage: A Shattered Dream
by Sherokee Ilse & Linda Hammer Burns, Wintergreen Press, 2002

Miscarriage: Women Sharing from the Heart
by Marie Allen, Ph. D. & Shelly Marks, M.S., John Wiley & Sons, Inc., 1993
Too Soon a Memory, A Guide for Parents Suffering a Miscarriage
(Available in Spanish as Una Memoria Demasiado Temprana) by Pat Schweibert, RN, Grief Watch Publishing, 2009

Books for parents whose baby’s life is expected to be brief

Loving and Letting Go: For Parents Who Decide to Turn Away from Aggressive Medical Intervention for Their Critically Ill Newborns by Deborah L. Davis, Ph.D.,
Centering Corporation, Revised 2002

The Gift of Time: Continuing Your Pregnancy When Your Baby’s Life Is Expected to Be Brief by Amy Kuebelbeck & Deborah L. Davis, Ph.D., John Hopkins University Press, 2011

Waiting With Gabriel: A Story of Cherishing A Baby’s Brief Life by Amy Kuebelbeck, Loyola Press, 2008

Additional book resources
Centering Corporation:
Grief Watch:
Center for Loss & Life Transition:

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